It’s All About Me: Creating Success Your Way! means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” ~ George Sheehan

How do you define “success?” What do you think of when you hear the word “success?” Do you define it in terms of how others view it and view you? Do you think someone else is successful, only to find out they don’t believe they are? Do you look at it in terms of material things or in terms of intangible things?

It feels like every time I turn around, I see someone promoting a service, program or book that is virtually guaranteeing a certain kind of “success.” Sometimes that picture of success is financial—follow their advice and make a million dollars in six weeks. Sometimes that picture of success is physical—ascribe to their fitness and eating regimen and lose 20 pounds, virtually overnight. Or maybe that picture of success is about climbing the ladder professionally—having more clients than you know what to do with or having colleagues who want to partner with you beating down your door.

And, granted, you may say to yourself, “those things wouldn’t be that bad.” But what if you don’t really want or need the million dollars, especially if you knew it came at the expense of your relationship with your spouse and children because you had to neglect them in order to make that much money?

Or what if you wanted to lose the weight, but it came at the expense of losing your emotional happiness, constantly obsessing about exercise repetitions and calories, rather than aiming for fitness and wellness? Or maybe you think it would be great to have all of the clients you could ever want, unless you knew that it meant you had absolutely no time for yourself to enjoy things you love like walking in nature, painting, making music, or any other kind of hobby.

Are you telling yourself that you can’t “have it all?” Are you giving up on that possibility without truly ever giving yourself a chance to experience it? Don’t do it!

The point is that we don’t have to choose one part of our life above another in order to be “successful.” There is a way to have the thriving, highly lucrative law practice without driving away those you love. There are ways to enjoy physical, spiritual and emotional health while being at the helm of a business and family.

What you must do is clarify your values and your priorities. When you can truly be in touch with what is most important to you and how you want to experience each aspect of your life, you are better equipped to intentionally create that reality. Clarity will drive you to success.

I define success as “the journey of becoming a living embodiment of your highest ideals and values.” Notice I didn’t say “an embodiment of someone else’s ideals and values.” Yours. Your ideals. Your values. When you truly live and act in alignment with those, you enjoy success—“success your way.” Why would you want to have success in any other way? Will you feel good about a vision of success that belongs to someone else, a vision that you are not aligned with?’s all about you. Sometimes we make the mistake of living our lives through someone else’s eyes. We think that our feeling successful is determined externally, by what other people believe success is. But if we remember that each of us is an individual, with our own goals, our own dreams, and our own desires, we cannot all define “success” in the same way.

For one person, success may be losing 10 pounds, while success for another is gaining 10 pounds. For one lawyer, success is prosecuting someone she believes to be guilty, while success for the opposing lawyer is protecting her client’s constitutional rights. There is no “right” or “wrong” answer in terms of your success in your personal life or your professional life—it is dependent on how you envision who you are and who you want to be.

TODAY: Define for yourself what “success” looks like. Don’t let anyone else’s opinion or perspective sway you. You know your own values, priorities, and ideals, and it is your responsibility to create a business and life in line with those. You can do it! You just have to be proactive in life, rather than reactive. Actively live your priorities, and you will be amazed at how you begin to feel successful and fulfilled in a way you never have before.


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