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The Price of Getting It All Done

http://www.flickr.com/photos/gilz99/3500810435/If you’re like most women today, you’re struggling to find the balance between work, family and self. You’re taking care of the needs of everyone else, leaving you little time, energy or motivation for your own self care. You have a heaping pile of obligations, responsibilities, commitments and chores and it takes focus, organization and excellent time management skills to get it all done. You accomplish in a day what most people do over the course of a week. You cross off tasks on your “to-do” list with a heavy sigh and a sense of relief. So, instead of feeling great when you get it all done, why is it that you have that nagging sense of unease?

Chances are, in your effort to “get it all done” you’ve disregarded the need for fun, joy, passion and purpose. Maybe there’s a dream unfulfilled and your busy schedule doesn’t allow for any time to pursue a passion. Maybe there are needs unmet such as extra sleep, exercise or spending time with friends but your obligations don’t allow the extra time to fit it all in. Maybe you’re so busy, you haven’t even had the opportunity to think about what it is that you actually need and what is necessary to make you feel happy and complete. Yes you may be getting it all done but there’s a good chance it’s at the expense of a healthy and balanced body, mind and spirit.

This is the way many of us are living today. We’re putting our needs at the bottom of the priority list because we’ve been conditioned to care for everyone else first. We feel guilty when we show ourselves any self-care and we’ve resigned ourselves to thinking that this is what life is. Well, the way we travel through womanhood is a very unique and personal decision. There is no “one size fits all” method, but instead many styles and choices to choose from. So here’s a thought. Try to see yourself from someone else’s eyes. How would they describe you? For example, would they describe you as silly, fun and relaxed or as someone who’s always stressed, anxious and impatient? Once you get your answer now determine if your thoughts, habits and behaviors have had a positive or negative effect on the way you look, feel and live. Finally, when you get those answers, determine if how you’re living needs to change.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/pursuethepassion/3808089294/If you’re a mom, you are the single biggest influence in your children’s lives. They watch, learn and emulate your thoughts, words and actions. If you don’t like the image you’re projecting or the role model you’ve become…change! Every home has a feeling within it. Almost like the many different styles of music, if you were to go from one house to the next, you’d find a certain harmony within the home. Some homes are melodious and soothing, while others are so noisy and thrashing they can give you a headache! Well, much of the harmony begins with mom and is determined by the way mom feels. If mom is feeling peaceful, happy and content she will enhance her family with the benefit of these emotional states. If she’s feeling drained, unfulfilled and unhappy she’ll bring these feelings into the home as well. 

By Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC The Mojo CoachÒ

 

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7 Success Strategies: Part 2: Get Focused

“In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.” ~ Robert A. Heinlein

This is the second article in a series called “7 Strategies of Successful Women Lawyers.” Taken together, women lawyers who utilize these seven strategies make progress while those who do not understand these strategies stay stuck.

The second success strategy is “Get Focused.” It sounds easy, but it is not simple. How many times do we set or write out goals, only to forget about them or find other pursuits that are more interesting and tantalizing? Many women lawyers have “bright, shiny object syndrome,” losing focus at every thttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jkannenberg/3378914654/urn as another opportunity, divergence, project, or great idea comes along.

Lawyers are often naturally creative, and we love to dream and think about new things. While this is a wonderful attribute when creating a business plan or building new relationships or working on a case, it can also be an incredible trap when we allow our creativity to take over our mind and suck all focus and single-mindedness away from us.

To get anything done, you must “get focused.” If we do not have clearly defined goals, we will get distracted at the slightest suggestion. Suddenly we find ourselves wasting away our time and energy on things that either do not need to be done at all, could be done at a different time, or could be done by someone else. Social media entraps us. Learning through books and audios becomes a great excuse for not taking the action that we know we should be taking, meaning we spend more time over-learning than putting what we learn into practice. We lose focus, and with it we lose our chances of success.

What we must do is strengthen our mental muscles that allow us to maintain a single-goal in our mind and make it the object of our attention and energy. This is not always easy. It takes practice. It takes discipline. But in the end, staying true to our goals, our lofty goals that move our spirits, will help us break free of those menial tasks that steal our precious moments of time.

Time is a limited and nonrenewable resource. When we waste our time, even on tasks that seem important but really are not, we are using up a resource that we cannot re-create. It’s gone, gone, gone forever. Those minutes (or hours, or even days) spent on meaningless tasks that are not in alignment with your goals not only kept you from moving forward; that wasted time actually pushes you backward by taking away precious time that you could have devoted toward the realization of your goals. You now have less time to do what you need to do. You stole time from yourself that you could have used to create the reality you desire, all in the name of what?

Be mindful of what you are spending your time on. Are you spending your time and energy inalignment and congruence with your goals? Or are you enslaved by tasks and distractions that move you no closer to your ultimate dreams?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/stevec77/145050099/You must “get focused,” starting right now. Without focus, you will pitter away the precious gift of time that you have been given to do the great work you are here to do, to grow your practice and yourself. Focus, act, and then revel in what you have created!

TODAY: Consider where you have lost focus. What are your time drainers? Where are you losing precious minutes and hours that could be used moving you toward your goals? Identify those time-suckers and make a commitment to move away from them, focusing on your goals and your dreams, and not letting anything stand in your way!

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